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In that last week, I was so excited every day to go to the lecture. Every day, I look forward to finding out who my new seatmate will be—or was yesterday still my seatmate today? What will be the lecture's topic and what will happen? I'm looking forward to asking lecturers questions and having a good time. I wanted to treasure the last days that I’m going to spend in BARD. I don't want to regret not doing anything or not talking to someone. I even got the chance to visit the market outside, walk around the market, buy things, and tasted that pink ice cream. Every moment was treasured at that time. Every step I made was worthwhile and memorable. I was happy.

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Assalamu Alaykum…



 
                                                               Hi I am Khayra.
 
                                               A Freelancer/Agricultural Engineer/Government Employee.
                                               Born and raised in Philippines.
                                               I am at my 30’s and I write what’s on my mind.
                                               I love coffee, peanuts and photography.
                                               I love being a mom and wife.
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Huawei D16 was launched in July 2022. I bought my Huawei Matte Pad D16, 12th Gen Intel Core i5, in October 2022. This series is the newly released version of Huawei matte pad. I'm not a techy user, and all I wanted for my laptop is a 16 GB of RAM because I wasn't happy with my previous laptop's 8 GB of RAM.  

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        I've been married to my husband for more than eight years. We've been best friends for 3 years before that. Yes I married my best friend and it’s the best decision. Why? I am not good in a couple relationship and no matter how madly in love with someone I can be, it never works out well. But with my best buddy, I am myself and I am comfortable. I laugh hard and I wear old clothes. He loves me and that's all I needed. I love my best friend so the marriage is never hard.

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 I love us always.

I am aware that this month has been full of a range of feelings. Acceptance, joy, disappointment, sympathy, anxiety, fear, hope, and mistakes. But because you're not giving up, I'm so proud of you. Despite the mounting difficulties, you remain optimistic. Even if life is difficult, you still find hope and find beauty in everything.

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It is making me happy and sad at the same time. Seeing him grow day by day.

 It seems like it was just yesterday when he was spending most of the time in my arms. 

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My parents were always judged by our relatives and other practicing Muslim in our community. For them, having a college degree should not be a priority when you are a Muslim especially when you are woman. It didn’t stop there. My brother decided to enroll in a university for a degree after graduating as a Hafiz (the one who memorized the Qur-an) and again, our whole family was criticized for pursuing education other than Islamic education. Despite the criticism thrown upon us, I am so proud that my parents want us to be a good Muslim while giving us a chance to choose what kind of career we want. Islamic knowledge is important for us Muslims but to be able to blend in a non-Islamic country, a degree is mandatory.

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If I will to give just one piece of advice, I’d say marry someone kind.

 

           Alhamdulillah. It’s overwhelming to know that we survived the first two years of our marriage. I’ve been married for more than two years now, and if I had to summarize the last two years in one word, I would say "adventure." It’s more of an adventure because it is the timeline where we had many firsts—our first apartment, our first huge fight, our first outing, and our first baby. The very first year was the most difficult and hardest for me. harder than any moment of the past 25 years of my existence in this world. My role as a wife has been put to the test many times, to the point that I have thought of giving up. I was pregnant that year and filled with thousands of emotions. Sometimes I couldn’t understand my husband or even myself.

    As time goes by, we learn to cope with challenges as they come. During my first pregnancy, my husband was always at work, even the day before I gave birth to my baby. I always cry before bed and during prayer. It was a very difficult time, physically, emotionally, and even financially. I’m glad I have an understanding husband and an ever-kind father-in-law, whom I call "bapa." Bapa was more like family to me, and he treated me like his own family too. May Allah bless him more. I also learned to befriend a cat at that time. I named my cat Loki. I'm not a cat person, but that cat meant so much to me.

           For me, the very secret technique to a good and healthy marriage is communication. I’m always an open book to my husband, and he’s the same with me. I always share everything with him. We talked a lot. We talked for hours and shared everything. from our daily meal to the color of his shoes. from the type of hijab and the dress I intend to wear. We always laugh. Sometimes we fight, but we do not let the day or night end without fixing it. We plan everything together. Every decision. Even the tiniest detail in a particular decision is considered. Of course, there were changes. Good changes. I noticed that we are more mature now. We think and speak carefully. We always avoid hurting each other, even during a fight. Because, whether we like it or not, we are already a family and, more importantly, parents. I’ve changed a lot. My husband once said, "Yum, nanay ka na talaga noh?" (Yum, you really are a mom now.) with a slight grin on his face. I know he loves what I have become.

 

           We are always happy together and always grateful. My husband and I never fail to appreciate all of our blessings. Alhamdulillah. Problems are normal, but every time it gets on our nerves, we will compare ourselves to the less fortunate people, and in that way, the load becomes lighter. Alhamdulillah. We always have fun in everything we do. Sometimes, literally everything People used to say "age is just a number" because a few years from now we will reach the age of 30, but our minds are sometimes still like high school students.

  I am happy to share that we are still watching the same anime that we used to watch when we were in elementary school. I think it is very important for married couples to keep having fun. We used to have date nights, which in my definition is a bed night plus a movie night, since we have a baby to attend to. We are studying and learning Islamic knowledge together at night. We call it "taalim." I'll read various hadiths and sirah (Sahaba's stories), and then we'll discuss them. We also love to watch Nouman Ali Khan’s Islamic lectures. We love to go to the "palengke" (public market) together and eat street foods. In our simple, spectacular lives, those are simple joys.

         There were things that we hated about each other, too. Yes, I know. I know that sometimes I nag too much. I know my husband hated that. I nag about my husband’s annoying habits and troubling behavior, like not hanging his jacket, leaving his clothes anywhere, and spending hours on DOTA 2 or COC. Ughh! I’m like my mom now. I grew up with many brothers with the same habit, but I guess I’ll never get used to it. We will continue to have adventures in our lives because we love each other. It is so nice that we continue to learn from each other, and we have this feeling that it’s like we were married only yesterday. We feel so blessed. Alhamdulillah I have also become an expert on my Wizi-thingy. Here’s what I learned in the past two years:

 

It is fun.

Everything is more fun when I’m doing it with my husband. Simple things will become extraordinary, and great things are not so great when done without him. Even posting this blog is fun because he reads and criticizes it first.

 

He will become over-protective.

Even though we are already married, my husband is still overly protective of everything about me. I don’t see it as mistrust but rather as a sign of a loving and caring husband.

 

I am my husband’s kryptonite.

I smile, and his bad day is washed away. I always affect my husband’s mood. I am now always cheering him on and always giving him the response that he desires, so that he can conquer the world and feel like a king.

 

A hug behind the back is enough.

I'm not required to ask everything. When I notice my husband’s having a very bad day, I just hug him. Later, we will laugh it all off, and then he will tell his story in a better way.

 

Having a baby will make your relationship even more complete.

We are happier. We love our baby so much, and it gives us so much joy. The fights are fewer and shorter.

 

Always look beautiful.

I always make myself physically attractive, especially at night. Marriage is never an excuse to never care about your appearance. Actually, whatever I’m doing to myself to be attractive before marriage, I'm doubling it now. It is also stated in many hadith that a wife should beautify herself to please her husband and Allah (SWT).

 

Assalamu Alaykum!

 

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Assalamu Alaykum!



Happy Eid’l  Fitr.

                Eid is one of my favorite days. It is the day when we Muslims are encouraged to wear our best clothes. This day, we are allowed to celebrate. Another thing that I love about Eid that actually gives me goosebumps is the long dua after the Eid salah. It is usually very emotional. It will make your heart melt, and you’ll repent right away.

                This Eid, I didn’t get the chance to join the Eid salah because I have a red visitor, but I still went to the mosque with my son. We waited outside until the salah was over. I feel thankful this Eid because my family is complete and I can’t ask for anything. I’ve been away from my husband for two weeks this month, but we still managed to be together today. Eid is for family. Eid is best spent with family. All I can do with my two boys, Alhamdulillah, is thank Allah. Allah knows what’s in my heart and how happy I am for the huge blessing that I have.

                I'm glad to see everyone gathered for Eid salah. All are equal. No racism. Everyone is prostrating on the ground. This morning I saw my former classmate, who is an ex-Roman Catholic and has now converted to Islam, and that was very nice seeing him for the first time wearing the traditional Muslim clothing, Alhamdulillah. People are happy. Although many Muslims are saddened by what’s happening now in Madinah, Istanbul, and other Muslim countries, May Allah grant them paradise.





Eidl' Fitr 2016


My princee, AL-Qari Bansuan Fermin



Selfie with my boys :)






With an old friend named "Yang". 



My husband with his close friends Mouc and Suad. the two other boys and Yang are Mouc's siblings



Every ocassion is complete without a happy family picture.



My boys.. hehe









OOTD/Pakistani style











Alhamdullillah I have had a great Eid, I hope you had a nice day too. May Allah guide us Always.. 

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Every detail of my life is brilliant


That if I am given a chance to travel back in time




I’ll gladly say “No, thanks.”




No one ever told me what will happen exactly after marriage.





No one ever told me that I will feel happiness and fear at the same time.




I am not perfect




But I am living an imperfectly perfect life.




I am not particularly proud of the things I’ve done in my life.




But I am very proud…




To be the mother of Al-Qari




And wife of Ali Kadapi…




Alhamdulillah!



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