I've been married to my husband for more than eight years. We've been best friends for 3 years before that. Yes I married my best friend and it’s the best decision. Why? I am not good in a couple relationship and no matter how madly in love with someone I can be, it never works out well. But with my best buddy, I am myself and I am comfortable. I laugh hard and I wear old clothes. He loves me and that's all I needed. I love my best friend so the marriage is never hard.

        Last night, we spoke as we were getting ready for bed. Just like any other nights, normal couple talk. We talked about countries and sites in Philippines that we wanted to visit, and maybe spend some night in nearby tourist spots areas. We laugh about it thinking about how to split budget as kid's schooling and other expenses are the priority. So we had a good laugh at that topic.

        So we decided to visit this good place in our city. 30 min drive. It’s a romantic place with a pool. We are going to spend overnight there, if there is enough time. Even the topic of drinking wine came up. Or trying any alcoholic beverage because we never tasted any alcoholic drinks so we decided that if we are going to taste it, might as well do it together. Simply taste. And then we realized that people said it taste bad and it’s haram so we ended up planning to drink coffee instead. Like how we used to drink it everyday. That talk was funny. We even disputed what type of alcoholic drink we’re going to drink but ended up planning to have a coffee date after all.

        It’s so good that after so many years, we still talk and treat each other like we used to a decade ago. We never grow old. My love for him is so special and has never been an infatuation. But there was a time in the third year of our marriage when I blushed when he kissed my forehead. I was so shy that time, and my question at the time was, "Am I infatuated with my husband?" I don't know if it's still possible for me to feel that after I've been married to him for years.

       The love I have for my best friend is not crazy love. It’s pure happiness and peaceful love. I feel safe and sound. It's not butterflies in the stomach or obsession and sleepless nights. It is so calm and healthy, just like the beautiful clouds in the clear sky in the afternoon. and I think that should be what love is. Peaceful in love You should not feel tense when your love is around. Love should make you feel at peace. Love should not give you sleepless nights. Love should make you fall asleep easily and soundly. That’s the kind of love that I want and need. I don't need the romantic head to heels love. I just need my best friend. I'm glad I married him.